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Home » How to Truly Live Happily Ever After

How to Truly Live Happily Ever After

November 30, 2020 by L. E. Mastilock 4 Comments

Sandy Toes Creations- How to Truly Live Happily Ever After
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I reviewed the new book My Beloved and My Friend:

How to Be Married to Your Best Friend Without Changing Spouses


Every girl dreams of someday jumping into the fairytale and living happily ever after! But can you have a lasting happy marriage? Is it all just a myth? What makes a great relationship? Where do I find these elusive secrets to a strong, healthy marriage and tips when marriage problems do come up? Marriage has been around as long as people. Why, if it’s so futile?

Our culture clearly does not know the answer, so who can we go to who has the real answers about how to have a happy marriage, live in peace and harmony with your family, and have a loving, healthy relationship that lasts forever?

My marriage is currently pretty great, but I figure it can never hurt to try to make it better and to have tips tucked away for the inevitable hard times. I know they’ll show up and put us to the test sooner or later!

This book is written by Hal and Melony Young, the authors of the popular book Raising Real Men, which I’ve heard great things about, so was excited to get to read this before it’s even out in stores!

Sandy Toes Creations- Book review, My Beloved, My Friend

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The book is based on the biblical view of marriage, okay stop right there! If you’re like me, you’re thinking of the long over used “obey your husband” verse and you want to run for cover as soon as you hear that! 

Being brought up in our modern culture, even with a church (some of the time), I have a hard time with this!

Seeing it written out in black and white that I should be obedient to my spouse does not sound fair to a strong, liberal, modern woman! I have authority issues as it is, being raised by an overbearing man who did seek to control, so just thinking about this verse gives me anxiety! The book includes scripture verses and references that are undeniable, so it really got me thinking.

Why does this bother me so much? Is this really how we’re meant to live to have a full and happy marriage? Obviously our modern culture is not the best model for happily ever after… 

perhaps there’s more to this that I’ve missed and I should not avoid these verses as I normally do.

Thankfully, the book also highlights verses about what the husband should be doing. 

It seems that far from lording over his wife, as is the popular image of Christian marriage, if he is living biblically, he would consider what is best for his whole family, including the feelings, needs, and wants, of his wife and children, so much as to place their needs above his own and he should continue to earn their devotion. His job is not to control them.

My favorite lines in the book are:

     “In other words, wives are told to submit, but husbands are told to die….that’s the measure of love Christ gave to us…There’s no room for selfishness in any degree, if your calling is service to the point of death.”

and

     “we define love- placing someone else’s concerns ahead of your own. If that kind of self-sacrificial love rules in your marriage, than tyranny isn’t a problem.” 

Well, this is sounding better! No, I don’t want my husband to die! But, I do agree that husbands should be caring for their family, truly caring, not just being the martyr. That makes much more sense!

It’s not the first time I’ve heard the obedient wife verse, but I’ve always skimmed over it quickly, trying not to take that little part about obedience in, thinking, “It was the times. It was their culture..”.  I don’t remember ever hearing that great relationship advice for men! Die for your spouse! Wonder why it hasn’t been very poplar?

I got to thinking about the way my marriage works. 

Sandy Toes Creations- How to Truly Live Happily Ever After

If I’m truly honest with myself, I do let my husband make the final decision on important matters. Not because he is so knowledgeable, or always right, but because I love and respect him and I want peace throughout the family. If I feel strongly about something, we talk it over and often he will give me my way, but when we have completely disagreed, it’s always been worth it for me to step down and let him take the lead.

I don’t like to admit this. It would sound much better to me to say we are equals in everything! But, then, as it is addressed in this book, how could there be a tie breaker? It would be stalemate whenever there was a disagreement. So, it makes sense that one of us is meant to step down. Even if we truly don’t want to. And then, to be humble. Not hold it against our spouse, but to move on from there, still as their supportive partner in everything. 
I think I might have a hard time with this one if something I felt very strongly about was rejected by my husband! Luckily, we haven’t had any major disagreements, but I’m glad I’ve now at least thought about how I could react. I guess I’d have to decide if my marriage is more important than the argument. I’d like to say my marriage, no matter what!

Sandy Toes Creations- How to Truly Live Happily Ever After

This really only covers about ONE PAGE of this great book!

Many other important topics and issues are addressed in My Beloved and My Friend.

 

Sandy Toes Creations- Book review- How to be Married to your Best Friend
The answers are from scripture and explained in a way anyone can understand and apply them. And written by people who understand! Who have lived through some of the worst storms and are still holding strong to each other.

I’m hoping my husband will have a chance to read this as well. And it will make a great gift to my kids some day when they’re ready to tie the knot! 

You can pre-order a copy of My Beloved and My Friend for $12 from the Raising Real Men website. The book officially releases on Valentine’s Day, 2014.

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About L. E. Mastilock

Author, Artist, Pro Blogger, and Social Media Manager. I encourage parents to nurture children through art and nature. I homeschool my kids and advocate for alternative education, creativity, family values, clean eating, rescue pets, and a playful childhood.
I blog at naturalparentguide.com & RascalandRocco.com

Comments

  1. elizabeth kiefer-greer says

    November 4, 2013 at 6:43 pm

    Leah, very well written. I think when we truly understand how God describes a biblical marriage, we can understand how beautiful His plan for a marriage is. I'm so glad I read this today.

    Reply
    • blogging says

      November 8, 2013 at 2:58 am

      So glad you enjoyed it! Yes, it was an eye opener for me to really explore those verses. Thanks for commenting!

      Reply
  2. Joaniecat says

    November 1, 2013 at 12:19 am

    What a sweet article! You are an inspiration.

    Reply
  3. Melanie Young says

    October 31, 2013 at 6:42 pm

    Leah, I thoroughly enjoyed being able to read how you wrestled with this passage. Thank you so much for letting us peek into your heart like that – what a blessing! ~Melanie Young

    Reply

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