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Home » Top Four Ways to Raise Grateful Kids

Top Four Ways to Raise Grateful Kids

November 23, 2020 by L. E. Mastilock 14 Comments

In our world of instant gratification and distraction, it can be hard for kids to take the time to realize how good they have it, how much they have, and to be grateful for it. And it can be hard for you as well, as a parent,  to be an example of gratitude.For Thanksgiving this year I wanted to share tips that I have learned along the way in parenthood. No, my kids didn’t come with an instruction manual either. These are some ways that are working in our family and that I’ve seen work in others that will help you be an example to your kids and teach your children to be grateful, respectful, and have the desire to help others in their own family as well as in their community and eventually around the world.

Four Ways to Raise Grateful Children

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1. Let Them Give

If it’s not a routine yet, make it a regular part of your year to collect unused toys, household goods, outgrown clothes, etc around your home to donate. Do this together, not while the kids are out. If you know of a family in need, deliver a box or a few items yourself and bring the kids along. There’s nothing like seeing who your donations are actually helping and knowing that they really truly are helping someone.

If you don’t know of anyone personally, there are plenty of programs accepting donations that can use the items or sell them to help others. Explain to your child how their items will help someone and let them come with you to the drop off center or watch the truck pick up the items.

Some kids love to clear out their space and will want to give up everything!

If they want to give, let them! If it’s something you really think they should keep, tell them why you’d like them to keep it (it had better be an heirloom or an expensive item you could never replace that your asking them to keep) and ask them to think on it for a day. If it’s possible for you to part with it, do it. If not explain your reasons, but remove it from your child’s room if they still want to give it up and store it the garage or attic. Don’t discourage giving and de-cluttering!

Teaching kids to be thankful and grateful. Thankfulness craft for Thanksgiving
Direction to this simple Thankfulness Pumpkin Pie craft here

2. Enlist Their Help

Volunteer together or with a group. Any type of volunteering can cultivate the giving spirit by experiencing the joy of helping an individual or the community, actively making a difference they can see. Some ways to help, clean up a state park or beach, serve at a community kitchen, food drive, or food pantry. visit a nursing home, work on a community project such as beautifying a school or community center. There are so many ways for kids and families to be involved in doing good; a simple search on the internet can give you a ton more ideas.

If you’re kids want to clean up trash, let them! I am prepared with bags, gloves, and hand sanitizer when we go out because my kids have done park clean up with the Jr. Rangers program and Save Our Shores beach clean up. We all teach our kids to care for the Earth, yet I hear so many parents telling their kids not to touch that trash. Let encourage clean up, even if it isn’t theirs and show them how to do it safely.

3. Clean Together

Speaking of encouraging clean up, cleaning together as a family fosters a sense of community, and an attitude of caring for not only your child’s own things, but everyone’s. Pick up toys, put away clothes, make beds, etc, all together as a family. This is great time to spend together bonding, connecting, and learning that everyone helps each other in a family. This extends to helping others outside the home as your child grows and becomes involved in the community. Being respectful of each others things and space, and helping one another grows generosity, a community spirit, and gratitude in your children for their own family, and what they have.

If you’re telling your kids to go put their own toys away by themselves because it’s their mess, think about the message that sends:  “Don’t clean up after others or help them, everyone has to take care of their own”.

Instead lets be an example of a helping, community serving attitude. Yes, my kids need to clean up after themselves, but I’ll say “I’ll help you clean up your toys if you get started.” If my child gets distracted and stops, I’ll remind him gently, “I said I would help you, not do it all by myself. Lets get this cleaned up so we can do ___. If you don’t want to help me, than you’ll get to do it by yourself.”

The kids will sometimes whine, “why do I have to clean this mess up? I didn’t do it!” ask them (respectfully) “Do I only make dinner for me? Do I only do my own laundry? No, we help each other in this family.”

Easy mini pumpkin pie recipe

Easy mini pumpkin pies kids love

I suggest cleaning up each others rooms together each night before getting ready for bed. Give yourselves a little time for examining finds (a toy your child hasn’t seen in a while), and it’s the perfect time for talking and enjoying each others company. Think of it as a fun bonding time you have together each night, rather than rushed and stressed. Your child will love the time and that you care enough to help him or her with cleaning up. However, if seems to take too long or your child gets too distracted to finish, you can also set a timer or incentive. For example, “if we get this done by 7:30, we’ll still have time to read before bed.”

Can I do this with a teen?

Of course, the younger you start, the easier this will be. It may take some getting used to with an older child. But, I’ve started this with a teen and continued for the three years she lived with me. At first she acted like I was invading her space, and then as if she was indifferent, but she finally admitted that she enjoyed the one on one time we had to chat and the new cleanliness of her otherwise uncontrollable room. She told me she hadn’t know where to even start, so the task of cleaning was overwhelming and she was grateful that less of her things got stepped on and broken now. It also helped develop some organizational skills that carried over into school and into her life.

4. Count Your Blessings

Once tucked in bed each night I ask my kids what they are grateful for, this is part of our bedtime prayers, but even if you don’t pray, it’s a great practice to get into the habit of listing the things you are thankful for. Not just for the kids either. List what you are grateful for right along with your child.

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We constantly have so many things going through our minds; to do lists, worries, deadlines to meet, and distractions such as t.v. and internet. It’s easy to stress over all we don’t have or is going wrong and we don’t take a lot of time to reflect on what is going right. But, it does wonders to relieve stress and change your outlook and attitude to a positive light to list even just a few good things in your lives that you are truly grateful for.
No matter what state your life is in there are good things. Take a few moments each day to remember what is truly important in life and that you have much to be happy and thankful for, even little things you take for granted such as breathing in and out or having clean socks. It’s a lifelong skill I highly recommend you teach yourself and your kids.
Quick and easy fruit turkey side dish for your Thanksgiving holiday party. Kids love this adorable holiay treat. Thanksgiving turkey
Easy Beautiful Thanksgiving Turkey Fruit Platter Here
I hope you’ll apply some if not all of these tips and come back and share how they’ve affected your family. By modeling and finding ways to show your own thankfulness and desire to give back by being helpful and giving, your kids will learn to do the same. Raising grateful kids is a family lifestyle. We all need to be more thankful for the things and people we have in our lives and take the time to recognize it and show it.

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Comments

  1. Mother of 3 says

    December 5, 2017 at 1:58 pm

    Such wonderful ideas! We have always sponsored a family at Christmas time; either through the church or our karate school and I have the boys come shopping with me and read about the children we’re buying gifts for so they can have a better sense of giving. We often go through clothing, toys, and household items for charity auctions and the like as well. I think the more kids see who they are helping and what they are working for it becomes much more meaningful to them.

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  2. Sharisse says

    November 28, 2015 at 5:55 am

    Great ideas for raising grateful kids! My 1-and-a-half-year-old already loves to help me throw things in the trash and recycling bin, sort laundry in the baskets and put his toys away. I think the key at his age is making it fun! 🙂

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  3. Andrea says

    November 23, 2015 at 5:12 am

    Thank you for the great tips! We teach my daughter thatn her weekly allowance is split 70/20/10 with spend/save/give. I love the idea of volunteering and giving back. It’s so important.

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  4. C. Lee Reed says

    November 23, 2015 at 1:44 am

    I used to do the room cleaning with Beloved. We got so much accomplished. I’d pick a category to work on and she’d clean up that stuff. We’d work around the room until done. Put on some music and you can sing and dance!

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    • L. E. Mastilock says

      November 23, 2015 at 8:35 am

      So great! I’m sure she’ll have fond memories of those times.

      Reply
  5. Mrs. AOK says

    November 21, 2015 at 11:12 pm

    Wonderful post! I’m always trying to implement ways to garnish gratitude within my children. Gratitude & giving is very important to me. I’ve been trying to influence others to try to be more kinder with my kindness challenge.

    Back on topic…
    Yesterday while at the grocery store my daughter & I saw a Spider-Man action figure marked down 75% my daughter ( the 13 yo) said we should buy it to donate. I couldn’t be more prouder. 🙂 I think it’s working. 🙂
    XOXO

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    • L. E. Mastilock says

      November 22, 2015 at 5:19 am

      That’s so awesome! Definitely working if that kind of thinking is going on without anyone needing to suggest it. Great job mom!

      Reply
  6. Crystal Green says

    November 21, 2015 at 8:05 pm

    These are some great suggestions to implement with raising kids to be grateful. I like the one where they clean with you. I hope more parents locallyh will start making sure their kids learn this skill.

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    • L. E. Mastilock says

      November 22, 2015 at 5:21 am

      It doesn’t seem to be a popular mindset in America. A kid should clean up their own mess. I agree with that to an extent, but cleaning together, working together, helping each other, having that quality time away from other distractions, such as T.V., it’s been beneficial in so many ways.

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  7. Scarlet says

    November 21, 2015 at 7:18 pm

    4 great suggestions. I really do think knowing how to be grateful makes us happier people.

    Reply
    • L. E. Mastilock says

      November 22, 2015 at 5:24 am

      Definitely makes for happier people. It’s a great habit to think on all the things you’re grateful for before you go to sleep, rather than your worries and to do lists.

      Reply
  8. Amy Boyington says

    November 21, 2015 at 2:50 pm

    These are great tips. I am so blessed that my daughter has grown into such a caring young lady who strives to help others. I pray that my 3 year old son will follow in her footsteps because of my guidance and her awesome example!

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  9. Jill says

    August 15, 2015 at 10:27 pm

    I loved that I happened on this today. My kids are very small and I’m trying to teach them to be compassionate. Their biggest “fun moment” of the morning was helping me clean 3 toilets and take out the trash – ha!!

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